Equal Parenting Anonymous, "EPA" 

There are no Membership Fees in EPA.  Cloning ourselves from our granddaddy group AA, Equal Parenting Anonymous (EPA) is firmly "unorganized"  and is not affiliated with any outside cause or Political Action group.  EPA Members are not restrained from political activities outside of the EPA.   Within an EPA Meeting, however, accepting the Family Law Industry "as it is",   EPA's focus is defensive, focusing on unpaid Sponsorship of our Members, and Peer Support  for assisting Sponsees in their personal battle for Equal Parenting.  There is no Fees in EPA other than a Sponsee "Carry the Message of Equal Parenting to the NCP,  Grandparent, and Sole Custody child who still suffers.". 

We are developing an "Oral Tradition" of "Wisdom, Strength & Hope"   to pass on to new EPA Parents, Grandparents and their Children to strengthen & guard them against the ravages of the Family Law Industry. 

In EPA, Step Parents have no inherent parenting rights.  What parenting rights they possess are lent them by their Natural-Parent-Spouse or assigned to them by Consent by the Natural Parent/s. 

In EPA a Natural Grandparent is encouraged to stand as an Equal Parent in a Proceeding if a Natural Parent is indisposed.  (We recommend Natural Grandparents and their children stand as Co-Defendants with the harassed Natural Parent in any Sole Custody Petition. )  Our objective in EPA through individual Sponsorship of Natural Parents and Natural Grandparents is to eliminate an outcome of Sole Custody or unequal Shared Parenting in Family Court.  (Can you participate as a Sponsor????)

In EPA, the emphasis is on the Twelve Traditions rather than the Twelve Steps.  In EPA, the "Steps" boil down essentially to get out of "Denial" and  to realize that "Innocence is no Defense" in BC's Family Courts and it is a matter of emotional and financial survival that one makes a "Paradigm Shift"  if one is to survive the rapacious plundering of a Natural Family's physical and emotional resources.  We now recognize the Activist Judges and the BC Family Courts in particular are Fabian Socialists and they function with little to discriminate them from the Inquisitors  or Hitler's SS.    For more, see Fathers for Life.

For expediency, we in "EPA" simply borrow and rework the methods developed by AA.  This is an unfolding process.  It is of great encouragement to note that in it's brief history of 80 years or so, AA has become a worldwide phenomena and if you want to get to a AA Meeting tonight, you can probably call AA in your town, and find a Meeting and an AA Sponsor near you. 

Our hope is that EPA will follow a parallel path of development and form a real obstacle to Fabian Socialism .

Anonymity is a mandatory element in all EPA  Meetings: 

Like other "Recovery" groups, Meetings may be "Open" or "Closed".  Meetings may patterned as an EPA-Teen (for the Children of NCPs), or they may be patterned as an EPAnon Meeting (for the spouses and parents of the NCP). For help in "How to" have a Meeting, see  EPA Meeting Formats

Twelve Steps of EPA

There really isn't the usual "Step Program" in EPA other than "Getting out of Denial" and trying to develop a Gracious manner and Inner Man with which to endure these Trials.  EPA has greatly benefitted from the Recovery Movements experience in living with Trauma and ongoing Abuse.  We seem to retain many familiar ideas from the "Step" programs to help us face our Enemies with a clear eye and modicum of Serenity, but do so without a formal series of "Steps".

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is clearly a hazard of any Natural Parent and children enduring an extended exposure to Canada's Family Court systems.  Our desire is to provide early in the game a "Safe Place" to work together to reunify our Families while trying to reduce the psychological harm being perpetrated the Divorce Industry.  For those already damaged by the Industry's Psych-Ops, this provides a means of un-doing the de-humanizing impact of being a Father or Child exposed to their attacks.

If will need to find a Group and a Sponsor/s before delving too deeply into this.  There is a secondary industry to the Divorce Industry  capitalizing on our distresses providing "counseling" services.  Typically these have grown out of some good things, but by feminizing them, they have become femi-centric and femi-narcisistic.  The tip-off of femi-narcisism is the double standards, double-talk, and the perverted vocabulary developed to support their outright Hatred of fathers and the Nuclear Family.  These are components of the Divorce Industry intending to break you down and become compliant to their Agenda.  We would save you that.  We want you to get the good, unadulterated recovery material.  For that you need a Group and a Sponsor.

A Twelve Step program for EP is not yet available.  This is not a big problem, because the Recovery movement is so generic and adaptable for any victim of abuse.  Try this Google: Recover, Twelve-Step for starters, This will move you, hopefully with your children in tow, towards new emotional and physical freedoms in Recovery.

The Twelve Traditions of Equal Parenting Anonymous (EPA)

The major obstacles which limit a groups' success are:

• public funding of anti-family groups like Status Of Women and "Women's' Studies" programs (commonly run by Activists like Hedy Fry & Patricia Ireland) 
• exhaustion & Post Traumatic Stress (PTSD) of disenfranchised parents,
• personal financial chaos of the parents,
• struggles for dominance in the groups, and
• fraudulent leadership and membership on the group. 

For a Support / Recovery Group method, it's hard to beat the Twelve Traditions that have developed over decades, providing help and "Recovery" to millions of "Dependents" and their "Co-Dependents", Rape victims, Incest victims, and so on. (Many of you, having been badly beaten and blamed for your beatings,  will recognize immediately the parallels!)   Don't feel compelled to follow the Twelve Traditions in your Group, but they will probably keep you out of a lot of trouble if you do.

Twelve Traditions of Equal Parenting Anonymous (Draft)

1. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon EPA unity.

2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.

3. The only requirement for EPA membership is a desire for Equal Parenting of both Natural Parents.

4. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or EPA as a whole.

5. Each group has but one primary purpose—to carry its Message to the disenfranchised Natural Parent and Grandparent who still suffers.

6. An EPA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the EPA. name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.

7. Every EPA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.

8. Equal Parenting Anonymous should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers.

9. EPA as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.

10. Equal Parenting Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the EPA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.

11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films.

12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place Principles before personalities.

The Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous  (Short Form)

1. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon A.A. unity.

2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.

3. The only requirement for A.A. membership is a desire to stop drinking.

4. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or A.A. as a whole.

5. Each group has but one primary purpose—to carry its message to the alcoholic who still suffers.

6. An A.A. group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the A.A. name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.

7. Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.

8. Alcoholics Anonymous should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers.

9. A.A., as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.

10. Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the A.A. name ought never be drawn into public controversy.

11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films.

12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.

• http://www.oa.org/twelve_traditions.html
• http://ganica.org/Traditions.htm
• http://www.legacyaa.com/book/twelve_traditions.htm
• http://www.siawso.org/steps.html
• http://www.al-anon.ca/traditions.html
• http://www.aa.org/default/en_about_aa_sub.cfm?subpageid=20&pageid=24
• http://www.sca-recovery.org/traditions.htm
• http://www.sanon.org/
• http://www.workaholics-anonymous.org/traditions.html

AA Structure, a pattern for Equal Parenting Anonymous (EPA) groups

About Equal Parenting Anonymous; 

Equal Parenting Anonymous (EPA) Meeting Formats

What do you think? Lots of pros to the Recovery model. We can pick and choose what components map directly into our "Program of Recovery" which we will be developing organically during the Equal Parenting Trek.  See also Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA) for a more analogous Recovery Program.  For sheer Growth, permanence and ubiquity, it's hard to beat "AA".  How can a group with no "Leadership" be so effective?

• Always un-organized (no legal entity to sue)

• Meetings for peer-counseling available pretty well anywhere.

• Bottom – up power structure. Participation is always by popular consent.  Deep penetration as a result.

• Deliberate emotional positioning of “Serenity” and “changing the things we can” to avoid going berserk or suicidal. Remedy to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

• Familiar to LOTS of people in “Recovery” and readily adopted by them for quick growth of new groups. Deciding to “not drink” is probably a good idea anyways, to get energies focused on what you can do something about.  Instead, get yourself to a MEETING and at nighttime, practice Prayer & Deep Muscle Relaxation.  Once the sun goes down, begin relaxing...."Work while it is yet Day, because the Night comes when no man can work."  Let the Adrenaline work FOR you, and get you doing something of Service for the EP Fellowship, rather than grind away your physical and mental health..  Like any Cult Leader, these "Mind Control" Perpetrators know exactly what they are doing to Canadian Families.  Learn to manage your emotions, practice Serenity to  fight Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).  Family Courts and the Liberal Party's objective of eliminating Parental Rights, is truly a "War against the Family".

• Designed to reproduce and replicate.

• Proven track record of worldwide propagation

The Structure of Alcoholics Anonymous, a pattern for us to follow?

AA's Non-Organization

Australian AA Service Manual, Sixth Edition - 2005

AA Structure of the Conference

Adult Children of Alcoholics: a model for NCPs & children in EP Anonymous and EPA-Teen

Even after you have accomplished your Equal Parenting Agreement,   Depending on how long and traumatic it was for you to regain your children, we think it will be advisable if not mandatory for you and your children to "Keep Coming Back" to your EPA Meetings.  If you or your children are still suffering from Parental Alienation Syndrome after a long spell of separation, we expect you will really need the long term peer support of your EPA Group.

The <ACoA> Problem: an Analogy for Mono-Parental Children and their NCPs

"Many of us found that we had several characteristics in common as a result of being brought up in an alcoholic <Mono-Parental> or other dysfunctional households.

We had come to feel isolated, and uneasy with other people, especially authority figures. To protect ourselves, we became people pleasers, even though we lost our own identities in the process. All the same we would mistake any personal criticism as a threat.

We either became alcoholics <Mono-Parentalists> ourselves, married them, or both. Failing that, we found other compulsive personalities, such as a workaholic, to fulfill our sick need for abandonment.

We lived live from the standpoint of victims. Having an over developed sense of responsibility, we preferred to be concerned with others rather than ourselves. We got guilt feelings when we trusted ourselves, giving in to others. We became reactors rather than actors, letting others take the initiative.

We were dependent personalities, terrified of abandonment, willing to do almost anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to be abandoned emotionally. We keep choosing insecure relationships because they matched our childhood relationship with alcoholic <Mono-Parentalist> or dysfunctional parents.

These symptoms of the family disease of alcoholism <Mono-Parentalism> or other dysfunction made us 'co-victims', those who take on the characteristics of the disease without necessarily ever taking a drink. We learned to keep our feelings down as children and keep them buried as adults. As a result of this conditioning, we often confused love with pity, tending to love those we could rescue.

Even more self-defeating, we became addicted to excitement in all our affairs, preferring constant upset to workable solutions.

This is a description, not an indictment."

The <ACoA> Problem