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Hal
was a Widower and had a daughter, Danica, from a previous marriage.
He then had two children with a new wife who left him when they were
toddlers. (She was reported to have taken up with her Courtenay
lawyer.) When our BC Family Courts put Hal
through
it's torments of Imputed Income,
Gleaned Wages,
State Imposed Homelessness,
and
Debtor's Prison, they imposed these same torments on his
daughter Danica, then a Tween. Hal points out the Support Tables
assume the only children to support are the Payee's children.
You can see where that left Hal & Danica: homeless and
dependent on the kindnesses of neighbors.
More...
Imputed Income
Jeffery Hal's Testimonial;
Hall Jeffery's Danica Petition
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"Desperate Husbands", by Stephen Perrine
2006-06-18 Keeping Divorced Dads at a Distance, Stephen
Perrine, Stephen Perrine, the editor in chief of
Best Life magazine, is
the author of the forthcoming "Desperate Husbands."(Thanks,
Paul Forseth)
EVERY other weekend for the past four and a half years, I've spent
three precious days with my two adolescent daughters. We play tennis
in summer, ski in winter, travel when the school schedule allows.
But no matter where we are, we're all keenly aware of the thin
membrane of secrecy that keeps us from being as close as we were
before their mom and I divorced. <Equal
Parenting eliminates this!!!>
Like most divorced fathers, I'm caught in
exactly the kind of nightmarish situation that experts on stress say
to avoid a great deal of responsibility, but very little power.I'm
the major source of support for my children; my financial
obligations are set by the state, and my wages automatically
garnished. (If I lost my job tomorrow, and couldn't keep up with my
payments, a warrant for my arrest would be issued within two
months.) But my influence over how my daughters are being raised is
limited, sometimes by decisions their mother makes that I have no
input into, and sometimes by their allegiance to her when she and I
are at odds. ... They'll forget to tell me
some detail of their lives or downright lie if they have to so I
won't feel sad that I've missed something they shared with their
mom, or raise issue over some decision she's made with which I might
not agree. As a result, I sometimes come away from visits or phone
calls feeling shaken, saddened and angry. My ex and I
have been to court over support issues, and we've been to court over
custody issues, and the legal battles inevitably trap our children
in the middle and force them to choose sides. Sadly, this is exactly
what not to do if you want to foster a loving parent-child bond. In
a study by a child psychologist, ...
The first step toward fostering a father and child reunion is to
make private mediation of the parenting provisions (physical
custody, legal custody and visiting) the standard procedure.
Allowing parents the chance to negotiate their support and
possibly give fathers more of a say in how their support is spent
will decrease the vitriol, and let fathers feel more like parents,
not just paychecks.
Second, we need to enact and enforce
sensible penalties for interfering with visits. Jailing a mother
is no way to solve the dispute; neither are financial penalties
that hurt her ability to care for the child. But mediation
perhaps compelled by the threat of financial penalty might be
the solution. It's estimated that one in five children of
divorce has not seen his or her father in the past year. Without
substantial rethinking of our current support and custody law,
children will continue to be alienated from their fathers, and
lawyers will remain on hand to soak up the resulting legal fees.

Just this month, I received a summons to attend a custody
conference at the Allentown, Pa., courthouse, and another letter
informing me that an accounting error has left me short on
support payments, and that my passport may be suspended. I want
to shield my daughters from these harsh truths. So these are the
secrets I'll be trying to keep from them as we gather together
for Father's Day. What secrets will they be keeping from
me?
Stephen Perrine, the editor in chief of Best Life magazine, is
the author of the forthcoming "Desperate Husbands."
For more...
canadacourtwatch.com
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Frank & Ashley Gonis of Montreal, QU, Move Away to BC
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BC's Red tape stalls father <Frank
Gonis>, daughter <Ashley > reunion, ,
Apr. 26 2009
It
was supposed to be a happy reunion
between a Quebec father and his
10-year-old daughter, who was abducted
and brought to British Columbia two
years ago.
Frank Gonis came to Vancouver to see
his daughter. But on Sunday, the reunion
had been put on hold. Now, he is
preparing to go home alone because of
government red tape that is keeping the
two apart.
"It's maddening. I get the impression
that this is insane," he
said. Gonis was granted custody of
Ashley by a Quebec court, but she
vanished along with her mother in 2007,
leaving no trace. About two weeks
ago, Ashley surfaced when she called 911
from a Vancouver Skytrain station.
Ecstatic, Frank Gonis got ready to leave
for B.C. right away.
"The
detective said, 'we got her.' My first
thought was, I'm dying, I was shaking,
and I thought, 'It's over. They are
going to bring her back, this is done,'"
he said. But it wasn't that
simple. There is a warrant for Ashley's
mother's arrest. But it's good only in
Quebec, not in British Columbia. It
means that Ashley's mother is a free
woman, and she is now fighting in a B.C.
court for custody.
On top of that, in
order to fight the case, Gonis needs to
present documents from a Quebec court.
But they are written in French, and to
translate them it will cost him
thousands of dollars. It's a process
that could take weeks - delaying his
reunion further. "I don't
understand," he said.
"If you get arrested and you ask for
your trial in French, you will get it,"
he said.
"Why do I have to pay?"
B.C.
Attorney-General Wally Oppal says he
is sympathetic to any parent that has a
child abducted. But, without an arrest
warrant, police in this province cannot
act, he said, adding that the mother can
exercise her rights.
"There's a jurisdictional dispute in
that the child and the mother live
here," Oppal said.
"In those circumstances, the
jurisdiction will take place where the
child is."
Gonis says he can wait to see Ashley and
wants to make sure the reunion goes
right. But he says no parent should have
to go through this. He's been waiting
for two years, and now he'll have to
wait longer.
2009-04-26
BC Red tape stalls father <Frank Gonis>,
daughter <Ashley > reunion
2009-05-15 B.C. family law blocks
Quebec dad from seeing daughter |
Police arrest
fugitive mom, Montreal Woman fled to
Vancouver after breakup,
May 27, 2009
Vancouver police have
arrested a Montreal woman accused of
kidnapping her own daughter after a
bitter custody battle.
Ariceli Bravo was arrested without
incident at 11 a.m. yesterday. She is in
custody awaiting the arrival of Montreal
investigators today who will escort her
back to Montreal. She was arrested
on a Canada-wide warrant for abduction
in contravention of a custody order in
Quebec.
Ashley
Tara Bravo Gonis, 10, turned up in
Vancouver after she made a 911 call from
a pay phone at Broadway SkyTrain
station. TransLink officers found
the girl standing in front of the
station, crying. She was frightened as
well as distraught. The girl told
officers she had been walking around
since running away and wasn't sure where
she was.
Her father, Frank
Gonis, had been in a 10-year
relationship with Bravo before the two
split up. Gonis said he was
eagerly awaiting the arrival of his
daughter, who he hasn't seen since her
disappearance two years ago. "At
least now it's open for Ashley to come
back," he told The Province last night
from his Montreal home.
Ashley will also be
transferred back to Montreal within the
next week, he said. The details of when
she will be back in his home -- and in
his arms -- are still being worked out.
"I've set up with youth protection
here," he said. "She can go into foster
care and then reintegrate here once
she's comfortable."
Gonis had travelled
to Vancouver after discovering his
ex-wife had spirited her here, but red
tape prevented him from seeing her. The
original arrest warrant for Bravo wasn't
Canada-wide and the custody order from
Quebec Superior Court had to first be
recognized in B.C. Supreme Court.
Gonis, who has been granted full custody
in Quebec courts, said he wouldn't be
surprised if Bravo tries to apply for
custody in Quebec.
2009-05-27
Police arrest fugitive mom, Montreal
Woman fled to Vancouver after breakup
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Runaway girl's mom willing to turn
self in, May 26, 2009
VANCOUVER The mother of
Ashley Gonis, the 10-year-old girl
who resurfaced in Vancouver after her
alleged abduction from Montreal two
years ago, said she is not afraid of an
arrest warrant that will force her back
to Quebec. Araceli Bravo, Ashley's
mother, said she is willing to turn
herself in to police after learning that
Montreal police have extended an arrest
warrant Canada-wide.
Ashley Gonis ran away from home and
walked seven kilometers to a pay phone
at a commuter train station last month
where she called 911 to say she had been
abused. After authorities arrived, they
found Ashley had been declared missing
by her father since 2007. Bravo
allegedly abducted Ashley from the
girl's father, Frank Gonis. But she said
in an interview yesterday that she has
never hidden her identity and the B.C.
government is aware of her existence
because she collects income assistance.
"I
did not hide from either the government
or the police, only from him," said
Bravo.
"Everyone else knew. I did my income
taxes here. The government knows where I
am and how to contact him. To this day I
have no reason to hide from anybody
official."
Bravo said she has taken out a
Restraining Order against Gonis who
she said had no interest in seeing his
daughter before.
The woman added it was the Montreal
police who advised her to move away
after she and Ashley sought refuge in a
Women's Shelter.
Ashley ran away from home April 10,
Bravo said in an interview, because they
had earlier fought about the girl's wish
to wear a T-shirt with the word "virgin"
on it. That shirt was not appropriate
for a 10-year-old. Ashley is
now in the care of ministry officials
and Bravo, 45, said she visits her three
times a week.
After Ashley resurfaced in Vancouver,
her father travelled from Montreal to
try to visit her. But ministry officials
are not allowing him to see her and he
returned to Montreal where he has been
unable to call Ashley. Gonis said
he's been told he can see his daughter
after Bravo has been arrested. "It's
more red tape I have to go through. It's
been a little over a month," said Gonis.
"I don't want to go back there and keep
fighting the courts over allegations
that she has made." Gonis said
Bravo did file a restraining order
against him but every allegation she has
made against him has never been proven
in court.
Montreal police Cmdr. Guy Ouellet
advised Bravo to turn herself over to
police in B.C. or in Quebec as soon as
possible.
2009-05-26 Runaway girl's mom
willing to turn self in |
Frank Gonis "ecstatic" his daughter
is okay Apr. 15 2009
The
father of a missing Quebec girl found in
BC is ecstatic that she is okay, he told
CTV Montreal on Wednesday.
Frank Gonis is the father of
10-year-old
Ashley Gonis. Custody was awarded to
Frank two years ago after Ashely's
mother abducted her.
Ashely had been
living in Vancouver with her mother, but
ran away from home on Friday.
She called 911 from a payphone at a
SkyTrain station, scared and asking to
be taken into foster care. It's a move
that shows much initiative on the part
of a young person. When police ran her
name, they found that she had been
reported missing and there was a warrant
out for her mother issued in 2008.
Frank Gonis is currently amassing
paperwork to prove to a Vancouver court
that he has legal custody of Ashley.
"And we also don't know what the mom
may, or may not, have said against he
father so she has to now be ready to
meet up with her dad and to return to
Quebec," said
Pina Arcamone of the Missing
Children's Network. "And part of our
role here [ ...] is to guide the father
as well because he also has not seen his
daughter in two years."
2009-04-15
Frank Gonis "ecstatic" his daughter is
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