Hal
was a Widower and had a daughter, Danica, from a previous marriage.
He then had two children with a new wife who left him when they were
toddlers. (She was reported to have taken up with her Courtenay
lawyer.) When our BC Family Courts put Hal through
it's torments of Imputed Income,
Gleaned Wages,
State Imposed Homelessness,
and
Debtor's Prison, they imposed these same torments on his
daughter Danica, then a Tween. Hal points out the Support Tables
assume the only children to support are the Payee's children.
You can see where that left Hal & Danica: homeless and
dependent on the kindnesses of neighbors.
EVERY other weekend for the past four and a half years, I've spent
three precious days with my two adolescent daughters. We play tennis
in summer, ski in winter, travel when the school schedule allows.
But no matter where we are, we're all keenly aware of the thin
membrane of secrecy that keeps us from being as close as we were
before their mom and I divorced. <Equal
Parenting eliminates this!!!>
Like most divorced fathers, I'm caught in
exactly the kind of nightmarish situation that experts on stress say
to avoid — a great deal of responsibility, but very little power.I'm
the major source of support for my children; my financial
obligations are set by the state, and my wages automatically
garnished. (If I lost my job tomorrow, and couldn't keep up with my
payments, a warrant for my arrest would be issued within two
months.) But my influence over how my daughters are being raised is
limited, sometimes by decisions their mother makes that I have no
input into, and sometimes by their allegiance to her when she and I
are at odds. ... They'll forget to tell me
some detail of their lives — or downright lie if they have to — so I
won't feel sad that I've missed something they shared with their
mom, or raise issue over some decision she's made with which I might
not agree. As a result, I sometimes come away from visits or phone
calls feeling shaken, saddened and angry. My ex and I
have been to court over support issues, and we've been to court over
custody issues, and the legal battles inevitably trap our children
in the middle and force them to choose sides. Sadly, this is exactly
what not to do if you want to foster a loving parent-child bond. In
a study by a child psychologist, ...
The first step toward fostering a father and child reunion is to
make private mediation of the parenting provisions (physical
custody, legal custody and visiting) the standard procedure.
Allowing parents the chance to negotiate their support — and
possibly give fathers more of a say in how their support is spent —
will decrease the vitriol, and let fathers feel more like parents,
not just paychecks.
Second, we need to enact and enforce
sensible penalties for interfering with visits. Jailing a mother
is no way to solve the dispute; neither are financial penalties
that hurt her ability to care for the child. But mediation —
perhaps compelled by the threat of financial penalty — might be
the solution. It's estimated that one in five children of
divorce has not seen his or her father in the past year. Without
substantial rethinking of our current support and custody law,
children will continue to be alienated from their fathers, and
lawyers will remain on hand to soak up the resulting legal fees.
Just this month, I received a summons to attend a custody
conference at the Allentown, Pa., courthouse, and another letter
informing me that an accounting error has left me short on
support payments, and that my passport may be suspended. I want
to shield my daughters from these harsh truths. So these are the
secrets I'll be trying to keep from them as we gather together
for Father's Day. What secrets will they be keeping from
me?
Stephen Perrine, the editor in chief of Best Life magazine, is
the author of the forthcoming "Desperate Husbands."
"Almost five years later, there are
new developments in the case of a boy cleared of killing his
father with his mother's gun. .... after a custody hearing
the boy's attorney said mother
Deborah Geisler is and always has been a suspect. ..
The boy was ten years old in 2004 when investigators say he
used his mother's gun to kill
Dr. Rick Lohstroh in the <mother's driveway just
after he had been picked up by his father, Rick, and
put into the back seat.> .
Last year his conviction
was
overturned, and in February the boy was released from the
Texas Youth Commission. He has been placed in the custody of
his maternal grandmother. .. As part of his
release, he is only allowed supervised visits with Geisler.
On Tuesday, the mother asked a judge to grant her private
visits with the now 15 year old boy. The judge denied the
request, and Geisler left in tears."
"This
is a picture of the lovely
Deborah Geisler, a nurse who was married to
Dr. Rick Lohstroh, who was shot to death by one of the
two sons she bore him in 2004. On the outside, Deborah
doesn't look like the type of person who'd be cheatin' up a
storm on Dr. Rick, but she did. She was violent, and he had
to call the cops on her several times after she busted up
his house, did stuff to his car, slashed his tires, bleh
bleh bleh. Baby stuff, compared to putting a handgun in your
ten year old son's hand and sending him out to shoot his
daddy in the back with it. Then, after he came back inside
following just one shot, she sent him back again and he
emptied the clip into his dying father.
Nice gal, huh? Nobody's done anything to her that I can
determine -- the ten year old boy received a ten-year
sentence in Texas and could have received up to FORTY years
in prison. I suppose the kid went to a gun show and bought
the gun himself? It was her gun, her coaching, her
responsibility; .....
White Woman Can
"Dr.
Rick Lohstroh was an emergency room physician at
the University of Texas Medical Branch in Galveston,
TX. On August 27th, 2004 Dr. Lohstroh was shot in
the back with a hand gun by his own ten year old
son. Dr. Lohstroh’s ex-wife,
Deborah Geisler, had been trying to alienate the
children from their father for years.
Throughout
the end of their marriage and divorce Deborah
exhibited a very aggressive style of Parental
Alienation. Allegations of physical and sexual abuse
had been made by Deborah but were proven false. At
the end of the divorce Dr. Lohstroh was awarded the
couple's home in Friendswood, TX and given equal
parenting time of his two boys. Deborah became
enraged and vengeful using the children as weapons
against their father. Copied from
Help Stop Parental Alienation Syndrome"
"A series of
articles published in different media August 27 - November
2004
"Dr. Rick Lohstroh
was an emergency room physician at the University of Texas
Medical Branch in Galveston, TX. On August 27th, 2004 Dr.
Lohstroh was shot in the back with a hand gun by his own ten
year old son. Dr. Lohstroh’s ex-wife, Deborah Geisler, had
been trying to alienate the children from their father for
years. Throughout the end of their marriage and divorce
Deborah exhibited a very aggressive style of Parental
Alienation. Allegations of physical and sexual abuse had
been made by Deborah but were proven false. At the end of
the divorce Dr. Lohstroh was awarded the couple's home in
Friendswood, TX and given equal parenting time of his two
boys. Deborah became enraged and vengeful using the children
as weapons against their father.
Copied from Help Stop
Parental Alienation Syndrome
"Please read these
articles and then pass them on to everyone you know. Getting
PAS included in the DSM-V will make the courts recognise it
as an actual disorder on a national level. The courts could
then order parents and children into treatment programs
before what happened to Rick Lohstroh happens to someone
else.
"If you have ever
been affected by this disorder you realise how devastating
it is to families, please take the time to write a letter to
the address below.
"Thank you for your
continued support of Dr. Rick Lohstroh and his family. Dr.
Lohstroh's death was a tragedy, but we can do something to
keep it from happening again. Please forward this to
everyone you know and write to the address below.
"Sending letters,
written on paper, that can be included in a file, is the
best way to seek any change. Emails won’t work.
Send your letters
to:
DSM-V Coordinator
American Psychiatric Association
1400 K Street, N.W.
Washington, D.C. USA 20005
Fax 202-682-6850
Request your letter
to be included in the "Parental Alienation Syndrome file."
Estranged Divorce, Unsubstantiated Abuse Allegations May Be
Child's Defense Bill Hawkins with the Harris
County District Attorney's Juvenile Division said officials
need time to collect investigative reports on the shooting,
autopsy information and details on the child. Another
hearing was scheduled for Sept. 13.
Couple Arrested Several Times On Family Violence Charges
A doctor who police say was shot to death by his 10-year-old
son had a troubled relationship with his wife. The man told
police at one point that she had threatened to kill him by
injecting him with insulin, records show.
Grandparents get temporary custody of Lohstroh children
Associated Press GALVESTON -- The grandparents of
two brothers, including a 10-year-old boy accused of killing
his father, were granted temporary custody of the boys
Wednesday. The older boy is in a Harris county juvenile
detention after allegedly shooting Dr. Rick Lohstroh on Aug.
27 as the two sat in Lohstroh’s vehicle. Lohstroh had gone
to his ex-wife’s west Harris County home to pick up the boys
for a week’s visitation at his Friendswood home.
The problems of a
10-year-old boy, a child of bitterly divorced parents,
didn't get much notice until he allegedly shot his father.
Now, he's in custody facing a murder charge and, if
convicted as a juvenile, could spend most of his life in
prison.
"Lohstroh, a 41-year-old emergency-room doctor, was shot in
the back Friday when he went to pick up his two sons at their mother's
home. Police say the 10-year-old boy climbed into the back of his
father's sport utility vehicle, fired a pistol several times through the
back of the driver's seat and then ran back inside the home."
In
"Women and the Process of Constitutional Reform"
McLellan warns that
<Horrors!>
"Provincial
Legislatures may impose a presumption of Joint
Custody... and perpetuate the domination of men over
women"
"RCMP say
the man died Saturday in a crash near the Dundurn military base
south of Saskatoon. He was driving a car that was hit head-on by
a truck pulling a trailer on the wrong side of the highway."
<Rick's death seems all too convenient!!!!!>
"Shame on them,"
Rick Fredrickson
said in an interview, after learning
the couple who left a Saskatoon
hospital with his newborn son this
spring while he desperately
sought help asserting his
Paternity & Right to custody
..
<The Adoptive Parents> now want
access to his financial records in
order to calculate how much he
should pay them for the child's
care."
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rights such as the freedom of expression, but does not by association or
reference to other materials condone or sanction violence or hatred.
"This
is a picture of the lovely
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