"Without
Cause or Consent, no Child shall be removed
from a Natural Parent!!!
"Two Equal Parents may .. agree to unequal Parenting
Time, but this does NOT impugn the Parental Authority of either
Natural Parent relative to Third Party Interlopers.
1. The Bottom Layer: The Initial
Equal Parenting Agreement
Initial
Equal Parenting Agreement creating full time, all time equality
of both natural parents, subordinate to no third parties (a
Constitutional right ignored by most Family Courts); a series of
tentative
Parenting Timetables for each year and statement of intent, or
"Wishes"; the requirement that the tentative Parenting Timetable
laid out there will be reviewed and finalized annually and
incorporated into the
Annual Parenting Supplement. Parental authority and
discretion is always equal and unaffected by inequalities of
Parenting Time allocations.
2. Middle Layer: The Annual
Supplement & its Parenting Timetable
3. Top Layer: Autonomy of Both Equal
Parents on all matters not previously Constrained.
Parenting Timetable alternates all residual parenting questions
between the two otherwise equal parents who are subordinate to no
third parties. Full autonomy of each parent during their
Parenting Time as allotted in the agreed Parenting Timetable on all
residual parenting questions not previously constrained by Covenants
in the initial Equal Parenting Agreement, or the current Annual
Parenting Supplement. Full discretion on residual parenting
with the Timetabled Parent, but flexibility encouraged and provided
by Ad Hoc Agreements.
"Trociuk
is .. a disheartening endorsement of biological concepts of
parenthood ... flawed .... it legitimizes a heterosexual view
of the family. .. It must be ignored."
This is a Judge practicing his sexual orientation
for decades while on the BC Bench. It is inconceivable that
the Law Enforcement officers and other Judges were unaware of all
his activities. Law Enforcement Officers, are of course unable
to act without the support of the Judiciary.
The university community tells us that at least
one of the Status of
Women university profs is not just
a run of the mill Communist... she's a self professed
MAOIST!!! The difference we're told is that a MAOIST
believes in
We say it is
Hedy Fry, and these
"Second Wave Feminists" /
Status of Women /
Women's Studies types that need to be eradicated from tax
funded positions and be forced to make Reparations to the thousands
of Fathers and their families whose lives who have been destroyed by
them since the sixties. We need also the restoration of the
Enticement &
Seduction provisions of Common Law which these SOWs had struck
by Statute.
...
No one would listen to my
father , no one would give him a chance to speak. ... My dad was an
abused husband, he was abused by his wife, and the justice system.
... He was a kind man who fought a good fight but no matter what he
did or said, he could never win with this system.
The common practice in BC Courts when Fathers do
not pay Child Support
- which most of the time is merely
Imputed - is to send
non-paying Father to Prison until he or his family members pay the
fees imposed by the Judge.
Even when mothers agree that Child Support should
no longer be paid, we find that the
Family Enforcement agencies, which are private contractors
functioning as
Bounty Hunters, typically refuse to end their claim on the
father's income,.
"Lohstroh, a 41-year-old
emergency-room doctor, was shot in the back Friday when he went to
pick up his two sons at their mother's home. Police say the
10-year-old boy climbed into the back of his father's sport utility
vehicle, fired a pistol several times through the back of the
driver's seat and then ran back inside the home."
"Andy Renouf, a father deprived of a relationship with his
daughter had 100% of his wages taken by the Government of Ontario, Canada,
collection agency, Family Responsibility Office (FRO), analogous to the
FMEP
here in BC.
Andy lived in Markham Ontario, Canada and died just over the regional border in
Durham Region.
At least with the US slavery in North America, the Slave
Owner was responsible for providing food and shelter for their slaves.
His suicide note of the day before his death read:
Oct. 16, 1995
TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN
Last Friday (13-October) my bank account was garnished. I was
left with a total of $00.43 in the bank.
At this time I have rent and bills to pay which would come to
somewhere approaching $1500 to $1800.
Since my last pay was direct deposited on Friday I now have no
way of supporting myself. I have no money for food or for gas
for my car to enable me to work. My employer also tells me that
they will only pay me by direct deposit. I therefore no longer
have a job, since the money would not reach me.
I have tried talking to the Family Support people at
1916 Dundas
St. E. their answer was: - "we have a court order," repeated
several times.
I have tried talking to the welfare people in Markham, since I
earned over $520.00 in the last month I am not eligible for
assistance.
I have had no contact with my daughter in approx. 4 years. I do
not even know if she is alive and well. I have tried to keep her
informed of my current telephone number but she has never
bothered to call.
I have no family and no friends, very little food, no viable job
and very poor future prospects. I have therefore decided that
there is no further point in continuing my life. It is my
intention to drive to a secluded area, near my home, feed the
car exhaust into the car, take some sleeping pills and use the
remaining gas in the car to end my life.
I would have preferred to die with more dignity.
It is my last will and testament that this letter be published
for all to see and read.
Signed,
A.T. Renouf
Carol Rhodes: Whistleblower exposes the crooked child
support agencies
"Carol Rhodes, former Friend of the Court Investigator ...
recently did an interview with host Richard Farr on the
KRights.com Internet Radio station. Michigan Shared parenting
activist
Robert Pedersen of
A Child’s Right was also interviewed. To listen, click
here.
The letter that Andrew Renouf left before he ended his life
on October 17, 1995, was addressed: "To Whom It May Concern". We
gather here today, whether we knew him or not, because we are
concerned, deeply concerned about the pain he experienced and
the issues that he brought to our attention as women and men in
a civilized society.
We want to make sense out of his death.
We want to learn from his experience.
We want to receive his last will and testament, his legacy, as
he asked.
We are attempting today to hear his cry, to learn and
self-examine ourselves from his scream, which in this letter he
made as loudly, as clearly, as emphatically as possible. He used
his whole life to propel these words into our consciousness and
into the fabric of our society. As his letter was his last will
and testament, for all concerned, we are extending his legacy
today by sharing his inheritance as he passed it on, in this
letter.
As Andrew was a man, I will speak first about what the letter
may point to in terms of those of us who are men; what we can
glean from Andrew; what is his legacy for us?
In this letter, we are either Andrew, or there is an Andrew who
is our acquaintance, our friend, our brother, our co-worker. We
are reminded that four times as many men kill themselves as do
women.
The trigger that seemed to set this death on its course was that
Andrew had no money. Do we measure a man by how much money he
has in his pocket or his bank account? The first thing that he
mentions in his letter is the 43 cents in his account. He
obviously felt that 43 cents pointed to his worthlessness, the
43 cents was a metaphor for how he felt and how much he was
valued on the open market. Andrew had no connection to the
amount of money that was garnished. He had no connection to the
value of the money that he had actually earned the previous
month. His value was focused on the 43 cents that was left to
keep his account open.
Andrew was a man who did not have a place to take his pain. He
says that he has no family, no friends. In the years that he
lived on this planet, why did he not have any friends? Why did
he feel there was nobody to call? Why was there no man or woman
he knew personally that he could reach out to and that they
would grab his hand? Why was there no brother-in-law, no buddy
from work, no friend of a friend, no clergy? Why was there no
"best friend"?
To respond to Andrew's letter, we men have to ask ourselves if,
along the journey of our lives, we have been investing in
relationships to help us live our lives. Are we cultivating,
investing and risking to have good friends? Do we make excuses
that we are too busy? Are we sabotaging our own lives by living
in isolation from our brothers and sisters in our own
communities or families? Are we in a life-long process of
estrangement?
Do we hide our pain? The name 'Andrew' means "manly" or
"strong". Does our notion of strength mean to go it alone, to be
silent, reserved, to hide our feelings and pretend that we are
in control and that everything is OK when it most definitely is
not OK? When somebody asks us how we are, do we lie to them and
say that we are fine? Do we hide our feelings under the pretense
that other people do not want to know? Do we blame the unwitting
for our lack of self-expression? Are we hostage to what we think
that other people think of us?
Do we cultivate safe places, safe times, and safe people where
we can really be who we are? Can we ever give ourselves
permission to be vulnerable? Have we found someone we can trust
with our secrets?
Andrew's letter says that estrangement, going it alone and
hiding pain, spells d-e-a-t-h.
In his pain, Andrew chose to end his life. We who gather here
without that pain can say that there were other choices he could
have made. He could have told a police officer or clergy person
that he was suicidal, or walked into an emergency ward of a
hospital. Strong men are not supposed to say, "I need help. I am
scared. I feel like killing myself. Help me!" This is a lie! Our
choices determine our life or our death. As men we are free to '
choose to get the help that we need to get through our difficult
times and live our lives.
What does this letter say to women?
The loudest message that this letter says to me in regards to
women is that "men feel". Men do feel. We may teach men not to
show their feelings, but men can and do feel as deeply and as
profoundly as any woman.
Andrew mentions that he has not seen his daughter in
approximately four years. While I am not privy to the intimacy
issues of the Renouf family, I can say that fathers naturally
tend to love their children. A mother's or father's relationship
with their child is separately authentic from their relationship
with each other.
I can say that children need the love of both their father and
their mother. The access that mother and father have with their
children, aside from obvious abuse, should not be determined by
the issues that the mother and the father have with each other.
Each parent can say that we are having problems with each other,
but we both love you very much. We know that children feel
guilty about a marriage break-up and they need to know that both
parents love them. It takes years to recover from taking sides,
and that same taking sides sabotages future relationships when
those children become adults.
Society says that men are producers; they bring home the bread.
Andrew's letter screams to us that he cannot produce without
limit.
There is a limit to what a man can produce.
There is a limit to what a man can take.
If we, as a society, teach boys that to be a man is to control,
and then, as in Andrew's case, we take all of that control away
to the point that the only way for him to keep any control is to
stop the wage garnishee, then by definition, we oblige him to
make that choice.
Andrew mentions two government agencies: Family Support Services
and Welfare. One garnishees his wages, the other tells him that
he still really has the money the other agency took away. It is
the classic case of the right hand not letting the left hand
know what it is doing. What this did to Andrew is profoundly
heinous in an age of computerization, fax machines and
telephones.
For Welfare to say that he made more than $520 the month before
is not true. It is a lie.
Not only is it a lie, but the Family Support agency had all the
documentation to prove to the Welfare people that Andrew Renouf
did not have any of the money he had worked for during the
previous month. The Family Support Services, in reality, did not
support the Renouf family. The policies of the Welfare Office
and the Family Support agency were contributing factors in the
destruction of the Renouf family.
Fathers are part of the family unit.
Husbands are part of the family unit.
You may listen to what I am saying and say that there are many
issues here:
the issue of child support
the issue of gender discrimination
the issue of alimony
marriage breakdown
What I would like to say to you is that there are no such things
as issues, there are only people, flesh and blood men, women,
and children. If our attitudes and agencies do not work to
support the health of women and men and children, then we must
change and adapt our attitudes and agencies so that they do help
all people.
The terrible reality of this story is that everyone lost.
a daughter lost her father
an ex-wife lost her support
society lost a good and productive member
and Andrew lost the most precious thing: his life.
Surely a system that makes everyone a loser has got to be wrong.
The most radical thing I have to say is that the solutions to
life's difficulties need a partnership that includes both men
and women. We need both sides to achieve the full equation and
we need to have the same rules and the same attitudes for both
men and women.
There is a place in Los Angeles where there is a small mountain
in the middle of an urban area. There used to be an observatory
there before the city lights made it impossible to see the
stars. It is a place where lovers go to park. It is also a place
where people go to commit suicide.
One evening, a police car drove up the winding road, just to see
a young man climbing over the rail to jump off and commit
suicide. The first policeman dashed to grab him, but he was too
late to get a good hold on him and keep his balance without
falling over the cliff himself. There was a moment when it
looked like both of them were going to fall to their deaths. By
then, the second policeman was able to get around the car and
grab the first policeman and pull them both to safety.
The first policeman was nearly killed. He was later asked, "Why
did you do this? Why did you risk you life, your future, losing
your family and everything for a total stranger, a man you
didn't even know?" He replied that when he touched him, he
"became" the other man. To let go and let him die would have
been like losing himself. He would not have been able to face
himself the next day. He became the other man.
So, we are more than our brother's keeper. We are our brother;
our brother's and our sister's welfare is directly linked to our
own. When Andrew died, part of us died with him, men and women
alike.
May God give us the grace to reach out in compassion for each
other, to attend to each other's pain, that we might all live in
mutual trust, esteem and love.
Rev. Alan Stewart, Westview Presbyterian Church, 233 Westview
Blvd., Toronto, ON. (416) 759-8531
"Last Friday my bank account was garnished. I was
left with a total of $00.43 in the bank. ..
Since my last pay was direct deposited on Friday I now have no
way of supporting myself. I have no money for food or for gas
for my car to enable me to work. ..
I would have preferred to die with more dignity."
"I am writing on behalf of
Darrin Bruce White. I am the oldest of his four
children. My name is
Ashlee A D Barnett-White. ...
No one would listen to my father , no one
would give him a chance to speak. ... My dad was an abused
husband, he was abused by his wife, and the justice system.
... He was a kind man who fought a good fight but no matter
what he did or said, he could never win with this system.
Things need to change for all fathers going through this
same thing. We need to help, too many kids go without a
father because of this , too many kids are hurt."
Ashlee A D Barnett-White, Eldest Daughter
He was also paying $439 a month to support an
older
child from a previous marriage.
He had to take stress leave from his job as a train engineer
for BC Rail. Master Baker ordered Darren out of his home on
two days notice.
The common practice in BC Courts when Fathers
do not pay Child
Support - which most of the time is merely
Imputed - is to send non-paying Father to Prison until he or
his family members pay the fees imposed by the Judge.
Even when mothers agree that Child Support should no
longer be paid, we find that the
Family Enforcement
agencies, which are private contractors
functioning as
Bounty Hunters, typically refuse to end their
claim on the father's income,.
Affirmative Action has made White Heterosexual Anglophone Males (WHAMs) a Class
of employment ineligibility & PC Hatred since 1980
"I get government cheques..... you stupid
Canadians.. I get government cheques.", Korean Realtor
Canadian Affirmative Action programs coupled with massive
immigration from "non-traditional" sources to accommodate UN commitments
precluded white males and many white females from employment and progressive
employment in government offices.
These same White Males are now routinely subjected to
Imputed
Income by Family court Judges - the majority of whom are beneficiaries of
Affirmative Action programs - when Dad's incomes aren't as high as the Judge
expects them to be.
Clyde Hertzman wants to know everything he can about about
your family and children. He and his
Human Early Learning Partnerships program has been
successful in subverting our privacy laws to legalize his
collection, analysis, and reporting of your family's
personal information to global policy makers.
Presently, the burden of proof is on the Accused to prove
themselves innocent (unless you are in a Criminal Court), Rare is the Judge who enforces Perjury laws against a
woman.
World Health Organization (WHO) gags unbiased DV studies, demands
falsified reporting on Violence Against Women
".... The Steering Committee of the WHO Study agreed that interviews
with men should not be included ..."
"In situations where very low levels of violence are documented or
there are results that are otherwise not expected, the findings should
be discussed with key informants and different community groups before
being widely disseminated."
In
"Women and the Process of Constitutional Reform"
McLellan warns that <Horrors!>
"Provincial
Legislatures may impose a presumption of Joint Custody... and
perpetuate the domination of men over women"
To prove the case against Barbi, they "followed the money".
Where did the cash flow originate? The Vatican Bank.
This was reported during the Trial in Canadian papers ~1982 for about
a week, with pictures of the Cardinals and Vatican Officials
shown. Then, it appears, the story was pulled.
If you don't want to go nuts in the Family Law Industry, you'd
better prepare yourself to recognize
Peck's previously
undescribed psychological class of what he calls "Evil" people.
"M. Scott Peck, M.D. <Psychiatrist> wrote a most important book for
our times,
People of the Lie, The Hope For Healing Human Evil, published in
1983 by Simon & Schuster. It’s a study of human evil. Peck said he
chose the title “because lying is both a cause and a
manifestation of evil. It is partly by their lying that we recognize
the evil.”
Peck’s analysis of the Mylai massacre, its massive cover-up and the
deceptions made by our government in the Viet Nam war should not be
missed for its lessons for us today."
The university community tells us that at
least one of the Status of Women
university profs is not just a run of the mill Communist...
she's a self professed MAOIST!!! The difference
we're told is that a MAOIST believes in
FYI, we're told by female friends that
we need to expand our vocabulary into the pro-family
"First Wave Feminists" of the
late
1800's who fought for women's
equality and the anti-family
"Second Wave Feminists" of the 1960s who were the
anti-marriage "Femi-Nazis" who are typically the Marxist
Lesbians who are now maintaining control of our government
offices at the Courts, the Schools, and the University's
faculties of Law and Women's Studies and Social Work..
These are the evil SOWs who have created the
doctrines of "justified" deceit, lying, and theft in the Family
Courts to make "Reparations" for "wrongs done to women" over all
centuries since civilization began, and leave women with
all the financial power, and men with none.
We say it is
Hedy Fry, and these
"Second Wave Feminists" /
Status of Women /
Women's Studies types that need to be eradicated from tax
funded positions and be forced to make Reparations to the
thousands of Fathers and their families whose lives who have
been destroyed by them since the sixties. We need also the
restoration of the Enticement
& Seduction provisions of Common Law which these SOWs had
struck by Statute.
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